I would like to share with u this inspiring insight about the courageous path of Deep Intimate Relationships.
What does being in an Intimate Relationship mean to u?
How authentic to yourself are u in ur current Relationship? Is it deeply Intimate and nourishing?
Are u willing to be seen and be witnessed as who U are, letting go of Masks and Boundaries that keep u safe and guarded?
Are u willing to see and witness ur beloved and hold a safe sacred space for each other Growth and Expansion?
Is ur relationship triggering u with deep Fears of being abandoned, rejected, mistreated, disrespected or taken advantage of?
What does feeling safe in a Intimate Relationship mean to u?
What does being held in a Safe space mean to u? How does it effect your overall life?
To go truly deep in an Intimate Relationship, we need to feel safe with our partner. We need to know — and know with our whole being — that we can trust them, and not just when we are with them. This Trust is based not on thinking that we should trust them, but rather on consistently feeling in our core their trustworthiness — their Integrity, their Reliability, their Commitment to remaining present under all conditions, their Passion for accessing Love, Depth, and Freedom with and through us.
If we cannot count on our partner to consistently take good care of the Container of our relationship — as when Energy is leaked through cracks created by erotically wandering attention — then we will find that we can go only so deep with them.
If one partner is chronically calling the whole relationship into question when there’s a fight or conflict, then the other is probably going to become wary of opening fully. Less safety means more shallows.
Making the ground of a relationship unnecessarily unstable — as when certain boundaries are overridden or trivialized in the name of “freedom” — keeps our relationship from being as deep and fulfilling as it could be.
The point isn’t to create a fortress of security, but to literally be a safe place for our partner to let go of playing it safe. Feeling safe is much more than just feeling secure!
Real Safety creates an atmosphere in which we can give our all without giving ourselves away.
Such safety makes room for a radically deep sharing of all that we are. Without it, we may seem to be free to go where we could not otherwise go, but such freedom —in its relative superficiality — is actually far more limiting than is the Freedom that arises in the presence of genuine safety between intimates.
The safer I feel with you, the deeper I can go with you. The safer I feel with you, the deeper the risks I can take with you. The safer I feel with you, the deeper and more fulfilling the passions are between us; Anger becomes a guardian of intimacy, Lust a magnifier of intimacy, and Ecstasy a celebration of intimacy.
Real safety gives us room to show up in all our colors.
The Presence of such safety gives us permission to be in as much pain as we actually are, thereby making possible the Healing we need in order to come fully alive, the healing through which we are, to whatever degree, awakened by all things, including our pain.
What Joy, what Benediction, what Grace, to share this in the dynamic safety possible in an intimate relationship!”
Robert Augustus Masters
Feel free to share ur comments below.
I would love to hear ur Insights on this delicate topic that affects all of us so deeply and often triggers part of ourself that we do not want to Face and Embrace. Too hard and painful can be. It’s scary. It’s challenging. But it’s damn worth it!
Face and Embrace ur Darkness, ur Fears, ur Wounds of going really deep and openly Surrender to Love, in all its Depth.
We know the Light is still there, even in the darkest Ocean, but somehow we are scared to dive deep cause of the Fear of drowning in the Unknown with all our Intentions and Longing not met.
And thus we decide to play safe, to play small, to create “Emergency Exits” leaking out our Energy with others instead of honouring and worshipping our Relationship and taking the step to really “Jump into this Ocean” and in speaking out loud to our Partner what our Intention, Fears and Needs are.
When we embrace them all, we allow ourself to grow together in this Magical Journey that is Life.
Leave from the Heart and discern between “Real Freedom” to love and be loved fully and deeply and “Superficial Freedom” finding excuses and fear-based logical arguments to play safe and not taking responsibility of ur own and ur beloved unresolved emotional patterns and Ego issues.
It seems a Paradox but “Real Freedom” comes from Pure Commitment.
Conscious Communication, Self-Love and Deep Awareness are the keys!
Allow the Magic of Love to guide u in this Life.
Create the Time and Space for it! Now!
Love & Freedom,